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It Starts With The Name
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Mark: ax, matanong akong tao… hehe… how do you view friendship?

Axo: kapag naikwento ko na yung sikreto ko sa isang tao.

Mark: meaning, kapag nak-establish ka na ng trust… so how do you differentiate the friendship in the real world and in the virtual world?

Axo: there is no indelible division. when i was a kid, i would email someone who does not exist. sasabihin ko lahat ng problema ko sa email.

Mark: okay… how old are you now, if you don’t mind…

Axo: and i would wish that someone out of billion people would get that account. 23 po.

Mark: hmmm… di pala sobrang malayo ang edad natin… __ years lang ang gap… hehehe… have you ever established lasting friendship with people na nakakasalamuha mo in the real world?

Axo: opo.

Mark: could we assume the same case for those you meet in the virtual world?

Axo: absolutely.

Mark: okay… can i freely give you my thoughts, react to what i say, and just take them as coming from an old person from low tech generation…

Axo: opo.

Mark: a few hours ago, i told you that “friendship” should be consummated in the real world… it has to be because we humans are tactile, visual and auditory communicants…
Mark: when i used the word friendship there, i did not mean it as the “friendship” that it is ought to be… for lack of the proper political word… what I really meant was “relationship”…
Mark: do you classify your friends? Like kung may problema ka, alam mo kung sinong tatakbuhan, hihingan ng payo, hihingan ng pera (toinks!), etc…

Axo: opo.

Mark: meaning, iba iba ang pagvalue mo ng friends mo?

Axo: nope, it’s not the value. it is something.. awts.

Mark: sorry, can you elaborate further?
Mark: can we say, you have different preferential treatments to each of your friends?

Axo: meron po.

Mark: I firmly believe, since you have different treatments for each of them, not all of them are your friends…

Axo: you have a flaw in your argument.

Mark: okay… fire away…

Axo: kaya kong murahin si jason habang nag jo joke. di ko kayang murahin si blu habang nag jo joke ako sa kanya. they are both my friends. they are indeed both my friends. but i just can’t go to blu saying stuff about petty things. which i can to jason. and i treat every people differently.

Mark: ahahaha!!! valid point on your first argument…
Mark: so let’s clarify treatment… why can you not say petty stuff about Fr. Rhett if he indeed is your friend?

Axo: i would respect kuya Blu and i would respect jason. i would respect a good old man differently how i would respect an it support staff.

Mark: but they are both your friends, why would respect be different for each of them?

Axo: now i realized clearly that we are not on the same page here. and there might be a difference on how we defined the word ‘respect.’ considering the totality of one person..
Axo: and yeah we are talking about broad slash complexity of every unique human lifeform out there.. and out there consists of billion plus people existing in this “metaphysical” space of ours.. in which each one is different from the other.

Mark: okay… we are talking about friendship in general… the point i am driving at is that, there are levels of human relationships. and you have validly proven that in your example…
Mark: you are also correct that for every person we meet, we set different levels of respect…

Axo: kuya mark, nahihiya lang ako, baka kailangan mo na matulog.

Mark: however, ethics teaches us that human life itself merits respect… insomniac ako ax… hehehe… kung inaantok ka na, ok lang din…

Axo: nope, hindi pa po. baka lang kase kailangan mo na matulog.

Mark: ok, to continue…

Axo: ok po.

Mark: however, ethics teaches us that human life itself merits respect… friendship does not follow the same rule… we cannot possibly be friends with every human life we meet….

Axo: masyado ba akong naging parasitiko sa isang tao na hindi ko kaya na umalis siya sa buhay ko?

Mark: ang view ko kasi is this: you need to define your level of relationship with that person… only then will you be able to understand why you feel that way… that is why i kept asking you on your concept of friendship, kasi sabi mo friend mo siya…

Mark: and friendship is just one of the 4 levels of human relationship (from what I knew from my personal-social formation lessons…

Axo: is it the lowest level of relationship?

Mark: no, it is the highest level…

Axo: what are the other three?

Mark: okay, we have the gut level… it’s like meron kang classmate na irregular, alam mo ang pangalan niya. alam niya ang pangalan mo, pero hindi kayo nagpapansinan… lowest level yan… next is cliche…
Mark: balik tayo sa irregular classmate, alam mo ang pangalan niya. alam niya ang pangalan mo, at tuwing nagkakasalubong kayo, you smile to each other, you nod etc… you acknowledge each other’s presence in a limited way… next level is acquaintance…
Mark: balik tayo sa irregular classmate, alam mo ang pangalan niya. alam niya ang pangalan mo, at tuwing nagkakasalubong kayo, you smile to each other, you nod etc… you acknowledge each other’s presence… nag-uusap na kayo… alam mo kung ilan silang magkakapatid, alam mo na ang birthday niya, you can crack jokes on him, basically, alam mo ang personal details niya in a limited way…

Axo: opo.

Mark: most people confuse this stage as friendship…. so what is friendship? eto na ang susunod na stage…
Mark: nakakapunta na siya sa bahay nyo kahit walang paalam… nasasabi mo na sa kanya kahit ano… you already know kung anong jokes ang nakakapagpatawa sa kanya, alam nyo na ang pangarap ng isa’t isa, you know the limits of each other’s patience, you basically present yourselves to each other in times of need… and even if you stand on opposing poles of opinion, you know the boundaries of respect…

Axo: kuya mark, can one developed friendship to one individual without knowing his real name? without knowing anything factual to this person? but you have this connection.
Axo: that you have talked everything under the sun. you know him. he knows you. You knowing his innermost.

Mark: sad to say Ax, I am bent on saying no… because another important facet of friendship (even on acquaintance) is trust… and friendship is personal… so how do you know that what you know about this person is factual?

Axo: no, i did not know anything factual.

Mark: ok…if you have observed in the levels, it started with personal knowledge…

Axo: is trust equates to knowing one’s real name? is trust equivalent to knowing where his house is? does the pillar of friendship really needs rules? that i have to know his name? how many they are in the family?

Mark: Okay… isa-isahin natin…

Axo: why do geniuses classified relationship in such a scientific way.. why do they have to do it scientifically.

Mark: is trust equal to knowing one’s real name? No. But friendship is all about reaching out and to make yourself known to the other. So, I would want you to know my name…
Mark: is trust equivalent to knowing where his house is? that i have to know his name? No, but again, it is part of goodwill to impart personal information since you want to reach out…

Axo: what is it about personal information?

Mark: does the pillar of friendship really need rules? A resounding YES!!! Because a true friend will die for his friend… This is the measure set by Jesus…

Axo: will you die for someone kahit hindi mo alam ang pangalan niya?

Mark: hmmmm…. again, let’s look at the much bigger picture – hindi mo alam pangalan niya, saan sya nakatira, kung totoo ba ang sinasabi niya sa yo, etc… as you said, you do not know anything factual

Axo: kuya Mark, thanks sa time. maraming salamat talaga. i have never saw you on this late hour. feeling ko dahil sa akin kaya ka lang nagtagal.

Mark: hehehe… okay lang yun…kno problem…

Axo: i wish we could talk more sa mga susunod na araw. kaso ayaw kong puyatin ka gabi gabi. awts.

Mark: hahaha! alam mo, hindi lang naman chat ang medium of communication available… may snail mail, at may email…

Axo: kuya mark, i want to email you.

Mark: okay, no problem… maraming akong natutunan ngayong gabi mula sa iyo… salamat din sa oras…

Axo: sige po kuya Mark, tulog na rin po ako! maraming maraming salamat talaga.

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148 Comments to “It Starts With The Name”

  1. Ax says:

    This is my conversation with Kuya Mark of Nooks and Crannies.

    Follow up note: We actually have this conversation dahil nag e emo ako kay Kuya Mark. Stories of leaving someone behind. At ang mundo ko ay tumigil dahil sa isang tao na lilisan sa buhay ko ng walang rason.

    Pero ano nga ba ang magagawa ko? Alam ko ang istorya ng buhay ng taong iyon, pero ni pangalan niya hindi ko man lamang alam.

    Teka lang, hindi ko kaya yung mga comments niyo. Sa comments ni Lio at ni Kulisap, hindi na ako makasagot. Okay naman ako ng gumising ako kanina! Pero, teka, teka lang. At hindi kami magkaaway ni Jason. Dahil kung meron mang tao na makakarelate dito, si Jason yun!

    (Edited for the fifth time.)

    • boypulubi says:

      Ax base ka na naman. Panalo ka na naman :)

    • yamada says:

      aw sana hindi ako yang tinutukoy mo…

      I hate attachment… lalo na sa blogosphere…

      I know nagulat ka, bakit ko dinelete ang blog ko, for some reasons na hindi ko na kayang isiwalat pa ang mga experiences ko, dahil may dalawang tao na nakakaalam kung sino ang tao sa likod ng blog na yun, at alam kong mapagkakatiwalaan sila, NAHIHIYA lang ako, kaya ndi ko pa kaya ipagpatuloy ang blog na iyon.

      Pero sana mali ako. Sana assuming lang ako na AKO yun.

  2. boypulubi says:

    Ang galing naman ng usapan niyo. Marami din akong natutunan.

    Nagpaalam ka ba na ipa-publish mo ito. Biro lang :)

    • boypulubi says:

      Sa tingin ko ang relasyon sa kapwa ay may iba-ibang antas. May mga piling tao na lalong lumalalim ang pagkakaibigan sa paglipas ng panahon.

      1. Meron tinatawag na “Acquaintance”. Kakilala sa pangalan at sa iba pang mga bagay.

      2. Habang tumtatagal maari naman kayong maging kabarkada o “buddy”. Kakulitan sa kung anu-anong trip niyo.

      3. “Friend” – habang tumatagal ang pagsasama niyo. Namumuo na ang pagkakaibigan niyo. Marami kayong bagay na alam sa isa’t isa. Komportable kayong kasama siya. Nasasabihan ng ilang problema. At nagsusuportahan sa isa’t isa. Unti unti niyo pang natutuklasan ang mga piling bagay tungkol sa inyong mga buhay buhay.

      4. “Best Friend” pinaka-dikit mo. Ito yung piling-piling mga tao sa buhay mo. Marami na kayong mga bagay na pinagdaanan. Hindi hinog sa pilit. Subok na sa panahon. Napagkakatiwalaan niyo ang isa’t isa at nasasabihan ng mga problema at mga sikreto ng walang alinlangan. Parang kapatid na ang turing niyo sa isa’t isa. Parang parte na siya ng buhay mo.

      Iba naman siyempre ang isang “counsellor” na pwede niyo ring mahingan ng payo.

  3. blu.sparks says:

    friends are there to compliment us and sometimes even give to us the in-your-face-kind-of-attitude if we made stupid decisions.

    i agree to everything what Mark pointed out.
    friendship is personal. :-)

    this is one great conversation.

  4. Mon says:

    all the while i thought it was Mark Rye aka Flamindevil until i read it’s Mark of Nooks and Crannies. haha

    ang galing ng converstaion! i learned a lot. really glad I got the chance to read
    it! thanks Ax.

    • Ax says:

      Nope, haha. Awts, katext ko pa naman si Rye kahapon. Sobrang bait ni Rye, tatawagin ko na ngang kuya yown! haha.

      If you will have a chance to meet Rye, wag mong palampasin!

  5. Allen says:

    This is very very enlightening. I learned and realized so much. I just have to tell my friends about this on facebook. lol.

    Okay, so syempre may ieepal din ako. haha.

    Not only are there different levels of human relationships. There are also different levels (oh no, di sya level but kinds) of human attitude. That’s why we only choose to crack the dirtiest jokes to selected friends because we already know each and everyone of them and because they’re important to us, we ought not to offend them or make them feel bad. This is not what we call “ka-plastican” because we have pure good intentions.

    Next, yes, I agree with you. Why do scientists (or psychologists, sociologists or whoever they are) have to define it in a scientific way? Parang ganito yung sa The Little Prince. To kids, when they tell their friends that they had met another kid across the street, they would ask about what he looks like, how he dresses up, how he walks or does he have a dog. While to grown-ups, they’d ask everything with figure like how much does he earn, how many cars does he have, how much does he have in his bank account.

    I just don’t agree with the rules, though. Friendship (or love to that extent) doesn’t have to be mutual. But it sure is sweet when it’s reciprocated.

    Great article kuya ax! I’ll post the link on my facebook ha!

    • Ax says:

      Awts, salamat Allen. I have deleted my FB account. Kahapon lang. It’s a fight between my insanity and my normality. Okay lang, my loss of FB account is my blog’s gain.

      At dahil sa article na ito rin ang dahilan why I deleted my FB account. This has nothing to do with specific people. Siguro selfish lang dino siguro ako kaya i deleted my FB account!

      Thanks again, Allen. And thanks for the The Little Prince thoughts. One of my favorite books.

  6. J.Kulisap says:

    Kaibigan, pinakamataas na uri ng relasyong pangTAO.
    Masakit kapag mismong kaibigan mo ang nanakit sayo.
    Masarap kapag mismong kaibigan mo ang nagmamahal sayo.
    Hindi katulad ng ibang relasyon, ang pagkakaibigan ay walang hinihintay na kapalit, kung sa pakiramdam mo ay kaibigan mo siya dahil may kailangan ka sa kaniya anumang aspeto ‘yan, hindi maglalaon parang bulang dadaan lang ang taong yon sa buhay mo.

    • Ax says:

      Kulisap,

      Nag-ugat ang usapin na iyan dahil sa mga pangyayari sa mundo ng blorld (reredundant mundo ng blog world).

      May isang tao akong nakilala dito sa mundo ng blog. Hindi ko alam kung nagsisisi ako na nag-iwan ako ng komento sa kanyang artikulo isang gabi na matamlay ang buwan.

      Nagtiwala ako na ibigay ang impormasyon ko at ang kwento ng buhay ko. Pero aalis din pala siya. Wala naman talagang may kasalanan dahil ang buhay ay puno ng pamamaalam.

      • J.Kulisap says:

        Asus, emoness (pagamit ng salita ninyo).

        Nagtiwala- kung mahalaga ka sa taong yon, babalikan ka niya.

        Parang si J.Kulisap, iniwanan siya at hanggang ngayon ay nasa isang sulok lang, hindi umaalis, umaasang babalikan siya kung ano siya nong iniwanan niya.

        Habang papalaot ka sa sarili mong bangka, marami kang masasalubong, may aswang, may anghel, may demonyo, may kerubin, lamang lupa, ang kailangan mo lang- maging mapanuri ka at gamitin mo ang sandata na malapit sa iyong ulo at sa isa pang ulo.

      • yamada says:

        aw hindi nga ako yan… assuming lang ako…

      • lio loco says:

        medyo natamaan ako.

        isang siraulong nag-iiwan ng komento ngunit hindi naman nag-iiwan ng bakas.

        paumanhin kung naging maramot ako. pero sa ganang akin, marapat lamang na sarilinin muna ang mga kwento sa likod ng maskara hangga’t hindi palagay ang iyong loob sa nakakadaupang palad.

        gusto kong isiping darating ang panahong matututunan ko ring pagkatiwalaan ang nakararami at hindi ang mangilan-ngilan lang.

        awts! huhlolz!

  7. Den Relojo says:

    We all need to be given importance. That is simply human nature. Friendship is one of the ways you get to fulfill such a need. And unlike Allen, I think that such a relationship should be mutual. Ang hirap naman yatang tawaging kaibigan ang isang tao na ‘di ka tinuturing na kaibigan. If that’s the case, you’ll just feel like one huge pathetic loser.

    • Ax says:

      The invention of the word martyr.

      Thanks Den Relojo. Parang Mafia Wars lang ah! Do you need help? Let me attack whoever announced war on you!

      Yay. Thanks Den! I realized too, that mutuality of feelings reciprocate what one is giving to the other.

  8. lio loco says:

    here’s my two-cents’-worth:

    i agree on the point that people will have different levels of relationship with other people. like you, i know who to kid hardcore jokes with and i know who should i be serious with. not because i have to do it out of “kaplastikan” (for lack of a better term) but rather, because you know they’re two different people with different set of values. this does not, in any way, make me less a friend to both of them though.

    having said that, i will also have to tell that online friendships abounding here in the blogosphere is not entirely the be-all and end-all of mutual relationship between two people. this is only a kick-off,a start, a means towards knowing that person behind the computer monitor. but then again, i would have to reiterate, that you don’t need to know every information, every little detail about that person for you to consider him as your friend.

    and no, i don’t think friendship has to be bounded by rules. but i do not subscribe to the boxed up idea of relegating it to different stages or levels. i think it sort of diminishes the genuine significance of friendship. a naive child will always tell you point-blank whether he likes you or not, without batting an eyelash and without thinking the reasons behind it. he likes you simply because he likes you, not because he thinks what he feels is the fourth and highest level of human relationship.

    that is basically what friendship is for me – you look at a person and you know, after talking with him for even a couple of minutes, (preferably over cold beer bottles…yeah, i’m a drunkard bastard. haha! kidding!) that he is your “wavelength,” that there’s a certain connection between the two of you.

    p.s. kuya ax , mas matanda ka pala sakin ng dalawang taon. haha!

    • J.Kulisap says:

      Base ako sa komento ni Lio Loco, mga utoy ko itong mga ito.

      Dapat bang sabihin na ang pagkakaibigan ay dapat inosente?

      • Ax says:

        base your face. biro lang.

        ang hirap sagutin ng mga comments niyo. One thing for sure, Lio made a spark in this dark cold room.

      • lio loco says:

        hindi naman sa ganun, ginoong kulisap. ang sa akin lang, hindi dapat binabahiran ng kung anu-anong matatas na paghahanay at pagpapangkat ang kung ano ang matamang depinisyon ng pagkakaibigan.

        ang pagkakaibigan ay nararamdaman. wala nang dapat pang ipaliwanag tungkol dun. sa ganang akin, ang pagbabanghay ay nagiging sagabal sa pag-arok ng tunay nitong kahulugan.

        ito naman ay isang singkong duling na pagpapahalaga ko lamang.

  9. lio loco says:

    *preferably

    sorry. typo. haha!

    • Ax says:

      oks, i’ll change later!

    • Ax says:

      awts, kuya mo nga ako lio. awts. parang hindi ako sanay. parang gusto kitang tawagin na kuya.

      tama. hindi na ako magtataka.

      • lio loco says:

        hahahaha!

        ako rin. hindi rin ako sanay na kuyahin ka. sa parehong dahilan na hindi ako sanay na tinatawag akong kuya ni jasonhamster. hinuha ko’y magkasing edad lang kami ng mokong na un eh. o, mas matanda ako ng isang taon? haha.

        isa, dalawa, tatlong taon. pare-pareho lang yan. di rin naman nagkakalayo ng edad. kung magka-wavelength din naman, bat di na lang mag-parekoy-yan di ba? hehe.

        all hail thee, the curious wordsmith ax! huhlolz!

  10. joycee says:

    Ang galeng! I miss having this type of conversation.

    Pare, is this the reason why you deleted your FB account? Basta if you need someone to tak to, text mo ako, shoot me an email, o ping mo ko sa YM: jacababan at yahoo dot com.

    Cheer up!

  11. yamada says:

    para sa akin, may mga tao na darating sa buhay mo, aalis, mags-stay, at nasa sa iyo yun kung paano mo sila pahahalagahan..

    may mga tao na umaalis sa di natin malamang dahilan

    o kung minsan, alam natin, pero di natin ginagawan ng paraan…

    minsan naman, kaya umaalis ang isang tao sa buhay mo, kasi pakiramdam niya balewala lang siya sayo..

    sana naman hindi ako yang tinutukoy mo sa comment mo..

    dahil malamang, pag nalaman mo ang pangalan ko, hindi mo na rin gugustuhing maging kaibigan ako…

  12. bonistation says:

    ay bitin ang paliwanag ni mark. nag eenjoy pa naman akong makinig eh. (bat kasi nag paalam agad tong si ax..)

    totoo naman na may mga certain levels tayo na inirereserve sa bawat taong nagiging kaibigan natin at yun ay nababase sa lalim at tagal ng pinagsamahan..

    ah basta! sa pagkakaibigan walang iwanan!! TAGAY NA!!

  13. Nortehanon says:

    pagkatapos kong basahin, dumugo ilong ko sa arguments hehehe I thought I was back in my philo and theo classes lolz! Kidding. Looks like may mas malalim na pinaghuhugutan at dahilan ang post na ito. Tama ba ako? ;)

    Dumaan lang, Ax, para mangumusta.

    • Ax says:

      Haha. Okay na po Ms. Nortehanon. Ayos naman po ang mga nangyayari.

      Awts. Pero, promise po. Totoo po. Di na po ako emo! Salamat po ng marami!

  14. Gosh… Para naman akong natutunaw habang binabasa ko ito… I am not used to this… :)
    Nahihiya ako…. Ibang-iba ito sa aking usual na ginagawa dito sa blogosphere…

    Pakonswelo ko na lang na maraming nagsabing may natutunan sila at marami rin ang nagpahayag ng sariling opinyon…

    Anyways, there’s more to friendship than I what I have said in our conversation Ax…

    Major points though that I need to point out:

    1. All human relationships are centered on love, or the lack of it.

    2. The classifications I presented to you were borne out of observation and not of the mere need to classify.

    3. Love involves extending yourself to the other. And more… (dito na sana patungo ang usapan natin… because this will clarify everything that I said, including dun sa rules of friendship. Whether we like it or not, friendship is definitive…)

    Hanggang sa susunod na pag-uusap…

    • Ax says:

      Sorry, hindi kaagad ako nakapag paalam! Awts. At sorry, ngayon lang ako nakapag reply. Gising pa ako Kuya Mark. 2.21 na ng madaling araw. Awts. Anong oras na naman ako gigising nito?

      Yay, gusto ko pag-usapan natin ang mga yan.

      Oks, hanggang sa susunod na pag-uusap Kuya Mark!

  15. Cjoyz says:

    ax pag ba pinalitan ko un email add ko dito mababago na un pink na alien?

    moving on, sa lahat ng mark na nakilala ko, ung friend mo lang may sense…hehehe (hi po!)

    in my realization, (as what happened sa bedscene) kahit gaano kapasaway ang isang tao basta kaibigan mo tatanggapin mo pa din with both arms. kahit sinabi mo ng lahat ng masasakit na salita magising lang tropa mo, pakikinggan ka pa din nya kahit uulitin mo lang ang payo mo sa kanya. kahit sinabi mo na “wag kang iiyak sa akin pag may ngyari sau” yayakapin mo pa din siya habang basa na ng luha, laway, sipon ang balikat mo.

    as per your blog, may ibat ibang treatment ka sa friends mo, ako naman ang may tanong sau. paano mo idi-differentiate ang friendship mo with keith and ice?hahaha

    ax always smile… wag kang emo… di ako sanay… nalulunkot tuloy ako… =c

    • Ax says:

      my relationship with Kit and Ice. Sij, huwag mo akong ginaganito. Haha. Seryoso ba ito? Si Ice at Kit? Wala. Hindi ko alam. Lagi nila akong hinaharass.

      Haha. di na ako emo. binura ko na yung FB ko. babalik ako. Hintayin niyo lang ako. Kamusta na ba ang FFS ko?

      • Cjoyz says:

        if seryoso un tanong ko? it depends on how will you read and accept the question..hehehe

        di na din ako nag-ffs eh, ill check later… naku ax… c”,)

  16. Cjoyz says:

    nga pala, buksan mo un inbox mo sa fb… i have a very big prob…hehehehe

  17. ang dami nmng alam ni “Mark” hehehe.

  18. Ax says:

    Pwede ba akong mag comment.

    Hindi ako emo. Naguluhan lang ako.

  19. PM says:

    ax may balak ka bang sumali sa ms. universe?

  20. cruxrifter says:

    aw :( ang haba naman :( pero nag effort parin ako magbasa. lol.. wala rin ako maxadong naintindihan . ang gulo nio pala mag usap. haha joke.

    pero whatever ur problem is, OKs lang yan.. may bukas pa

    ——————
    akoy nagbabalik.

  21. jason says:

    ax….

    wala ako masabi..

  22. tsenn`elas says:

    malalim.
    at ngayon ay naguguluhan ako dahil sa definition ng acquaintance at friendship.. hmm..

  23. jayr.santos says:

    yes, meron ngang level-level na yan sa relationship.. pero sa akin lang blurred naman yun. nasa atin na lang din kung paano madidistinguish at gagawa ng definition (scientific man or personal) sa mga relationships natin…

    as long as it is true.

    this is a good, uhmm, transcript/conversation:D not an article.

  24. Mr. Nonsense says:

    to me thers associates and barkada. and i feel comfortable to have a 2-way relationship with either one. would i die for my “friends”? –sira ba ulo mo? me pamilya ako noh. would i die for justice? i might. kahit di ko sya kaibigan. i would definitely die for my family. in the end, i’m a social butterfly who doesn’t really have a one true barkada outside my wife.
    si ax? i believe him when he says he can have a relationship in the virtual world. me topak, pero he makes sense :)

    • Haha! Hindi naman talaga ito yung end-all-be-all categorical meaning na “dying” as in “end of life”… It also means putting someone else’s need on top of your own needs… :)

      But we are challenged to do the former:
      “My command is this: Love each other as I have loved you. Greater love has no one than this, that he lay down his life for his friends. You are my friends if you do what I command.” – John 15:12-14

      • mr. nonsense says:

        “putting someone else’s need on top of your own needs…” lahat tayo dapat ganyan. kung lahat tayo eh ang priority natin eh tulungan ang ibang tao eh wala nang magugutom at wala nang mag-aaway. mas siguradong may mag-aalaga sa sarili natin. pero kung sarili natin lang ang papansinin, sino na ang mag-aasikaso sa mga taong di nila kayang alagaan ang sarili nila. kung sarili natin ang priority, madali tayong maging jelous at territorial>>>uwi lang sa away.
        everyone should live in humility.

  25. jason says:

    hey ax

    heehhehe

    :D

    lets talk with stain

  26. precious says:

    dapat nmn tlg hnd tau maging possessive sa mga bagay na hindi naten pag-aari. kung possession mo yan, dun k n maghurumintadong maige pag sakaling mawala..sa friendship (F), hnd naten kylngng maging kung sino para alagaan ung friends or ung F..kung mg click kayo, mabuti, pero kung ngpasya ung tao na umalis na sa mundo ng F nio, wala kang magagawa kundi tanggapin un..

    • Ax says:

      ang friendship ay two-way phone conversation.

      kung ayaw makipag-usap nung nasa kabilang linya. kung busy. kung out of service.

      wala nga tayong magagawa.

      • juliet says:

        precious, so nagaksaya ka lang pala ng oras panahon at lakas para sa mga bagay na yun. dapat ka bang manghinayang? pero alam ko naman ang sagot. kaso minsan yung tanung na yun parang kulang pa rin ang sagot. o nag aantay pa rin nag sagot sa kabilang linya.
        precious tanong lang. walang laglagan

        • precious says:

          @juliet, bkt d2 moko tntnong? nangangapit-bahay kp..pwd nmn mmya pagdating mo ^,^ anywei, buti cnbi mong wlng laglagan kundi..hehehe loko lang.

          seriously, tingin ko hnd ka ng aksaya ng panahon s taong un cuz uv gain friendship nga db hnd nga lng na maintain cuz of certain circumstances. wlng “dapat” s isang relasyon. mapa kaibigan o ka-ibigan. ngkakaron lng nito pag ng set tayo ng norms or rules w/in friendship; at dahil my individual differences, meron at merong “mali” tayong makikita. kng hnd nsunod un, maaaring mag-alangan or mwlan tau ng gana s friendship na na-establish naten. nggets mo b ko ako hnd eh..^,^

          verdict: kausapin mo ung tao for the nth time, ngaun kung sawa k ng gawin un, ul juz thank dat person 4d things they’v contributed 2ur lyf & juz let dem go..

          sbi nga s kanta (dis applies to any kinds of love ha..)
          “cuz letting love go is never easy but i love u so dats why i set u free..” (mhba pa to e tntamad nakong mg type)

  27. grabe haba..my conflict ba ulit?
    pero i do very much agree with you..minsan nga lang malabo..

  28. anakngpating says:

    so..ung tanong ni kuya mark sayo yun din ang tanong mo sakin hehe..medjo naliliwanagan na ko sa usap natin last night..pero bat pinangalan mo si kuya blu..awts..

    gusto ko mag react dun sa di mo alam ang pangalan nya pero sa ym na lang hehe..;)

  29. anakngpating says:

    sabi na eh kilala ko na yung tinutukoy mo..awts bat ganun..

  30. yhen says:

    hehehe ax..

    la lang.. smol world noh? ehhe!!!

    natuwa lang ako.. kaya pala medyo hawig kayo ni lakay tian… hehehe

    • Ax says:

      oo nga. may konek pala tayo.

      haha. tawag ko sa kanya Kuya Dong. Yun kase lagi ang tawag ko sa kanya. Simula bata pa lang kami. Lahat kaming magpipinsan Kuya Dong ang tawag sa kanya.

  31. Joyo says:

    ang seryoso ng usapan nyo… kapag siguro kasama ko don nakanganga na lang ako… tapos yung eyeball ko na lang ang gumagalaw…

    parang si Paolo Coelho at Mitch albom ang naiisip ko habang binabasa ko ang conversation nyo…

    nakarelate ako sa usapan nyo, kwentong kaibigan…

    may isang tao kasi sa lumang buhay ko ang nagpakita sa akin kamakailan…

  32. eli says:

    ax sa ym ba yan? ano ba ang ym ni mark? marami lang akong gustong itanong sa kanya. hehe

  33. .poOt! says:

    waaaah. after almost a month, i’m back. pasensya na kuya ax kung ngayon lang ulit ako nakadalwa, medyo bisi-bisihan kasi si poot ngayon. hahaha.

    kuya ax, nagiging emo ka rin pala? hehe.

  34. oh-oh.

    nagpunta ako dito para tanungin ka sana about alvin kasi wala na ang blog niya…

    at ito ang nadatnan ko…

    sana bumalik si alvin..

  35. Thank you to Mark!

    Very timely ang pagbisita ko dito.Sinave ko ang post na ito. Gagamitin ko itong integral information sa catechism this Friday.

    …sana ipost pa ang continuation ax…

  36. kikayness says:

    nais ko sana mag-iwan ng makabagbag-damdaming comment kaso mukhang okay ka na…good to know…naalala ko tuloy yung sociology/ philosophy classes namin nung College…anyways, iba ang trato ko sa friends, acquaintances, cliques ko. With everything that has happened to me in the past, medyo careful ako sa kung sino ang talagang kino-consider ko as friend/ bestfriend. I have always said that I have trust issues, madali ako magtiwala pero madali din mawala yung tiwala.

    di ko na dadagdagan ang mga iniisip mo…nektaym na lang ang singilan ng articles hehehehe

  37. pinkdiaries says:

    padagdag sa napakadami mong komento!

    salamat din sa pagbisita! :-)

  38. nobe says:

    there are many levels of friendship. there are those you will die for and there are those na magdadalawang isip ka. :)

    love,
    nobe

    http://www.deariago.com
    http://www.iamnobe.wordpress.com

  39. bipolarsisa says:

    madami akong natutunan sa usapan nyo. ;)

  40. Geisha says:

    Genious!

    galing bigla akong nauntog! :D

  41. cyberpat says:

    napabisita po ul8… kuya… si mark po ba dyan na naka chat nyo ay yung kuya na naiisip ko???… hehehe… geh po kuya…

  42. Johnnie says:

    I enjoy reading your article. Thank you so much for share good information.

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